So my therapist suggested I start a blog to help me. And one of the many things I say every week is this sucks so bad. It sucks that I lost the person that I have loved for 21 years and my boys lost their dad. It sucks that I cry at the most inopportune times. I know people must look at me like I'm crazy and some days I feel crazy. Yesterday I cried while eating lunch with friends. This month I think I have cried every day. I want this pain that I feel to go away. I don't want to feel the loneliness and heartache anymore. People have told me it looks like I'm doing good and they like seeing me happy. I'm not happy and you can fake a smile and happiness. But when I get home I can be me. I can be sad and not do anything. There are so many days that I don't want to get out of bed and go to work. All I want to do is lay around and be sad. If I never had to leave my house again I think I would be ok because some days it's hard to face the world. When I moved from my old house I was excited because I thought it would be good for me to start new in my moving forward. But I don't feel that way. I have crap laying around my house and I don't care. I don't want to put anything away. I don't care what my house looks like because no one will see it anyway. It's so unfair that Steve is gone and never coming back. It's unfair that my family is no longer whole. It's unfair that we have gaping holes in our hearts that will never be fixed. It's unfair that I never get to spend another day with him. It's unfair that I never got to say goodbye to him and tell him I love him because I was being a stubborn bitch. It's unfair that I will feel like I let him down forever and that I have let my boys down too. It's unfair that I'm falling apart inside.
It does suck, Jeannie! It's okay to be sad. I think you are stronger than you think you are. You do get up and go to work, some of us may not be able to do the same if we were in the same situation, who's to say? I couldn't even keep my job when I was getting divorced(and I'm the one that left), I can't even imagine losing the one I love. I think blogging is an excellent idea! Keep moving forward, even though I know the pain will never go away, you will learn to live with it more and more each day. I'm so proud of you and you are an example of how strong people can be, even if you're faking it now, some day, you won't have to anymore. *HUGS* to you. You are always in my prayers!
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